11 best questions to ask your girlfriend to know her better

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Question to ask your girlfriend

Do you have a girlfriend? I know she is the best, right? But how much do you know about her? According to you, what are some of the best questions that you should ask her? Just to make you know her better.

When it comes to asking your girlfriend questions, it is good to have at least an idea of the type of questions you aim to ask them. What do you need to know about her? It could be related to her past, emotions, psychological standards, or likes and dislikes.

However, for this article, I would like to be as general as possible. After all, you just like this girl and you want to know her better. You don’t want to start making her scared. Questions always make girls run away very fast.

“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”  Harry (Billy Crystal)

So be careful even when asking these questions. You can never be sure of how your girlfriend is going to react.

11 best questions to ask your girlfriend to know her better.

The following is just a list of questions I have sampled from so many. They only act as a guide and it does not necessarily mean that they are the only ones. It will depend on what you need to know and how much more you want to know.

If you are committed enough to want to move to the next step in your relationship, you will need to go even more in-depth to have all that you need to have on your fingertips.

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1. How have you been feeling lately?

Ladies love talking about themselves. The only difference is that they know what to tell certain people and what not to tell them. If you show actual concern and interest, you get to hear them talk about what has stressed them out that day.

This type of question always helps a man know where the girl’s mind is at. The lady ends up feeling safer and more in touch with you than before. It also helps you know what she has been facing throughout the week.

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.”  Helen Keller

I always believe that the actual jackpot is this one question. If you can get to be the one she opens up to, then you are on your way to win her over. You are on the right track.

2. What is your best childhood memory?

Everyone has that one memory from when they were young that can never leave their mind. Which one is hers? The idea behind this question is that, when you will want to recreate something special for her, this will be your first clue.

It is also the best time to allow her to show how she feels best. Incredible memories have a way of bringing the most sensitive and unique reaction out of anybody. It is very hard to hide the real way of how you are feeling especially if it is something that you genuinely treasure and appreciate.

While she is talking about it, ensure that you don’t make her feel like it is useless. N. R. Heart says that “Souls tend to go back to who feels like home.” Try as much as possible to show that it is indeed a great memory even if it sounds silly to you. You are trying to know her better, not to judge her in any way. To make her feel at home.

3. What is your ideal relationship like?

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Girls can be very creative people, even when it comes to basic everyday situations. The other thing you need to realize is that every girl has her fantasy. Therefore, this question is fundamental, for you to know what she expects out of this relationship.

It may be overboard for many of them; after all, it is just a fantasy, but I am sure you can fulfil some part of it. It will help if you put it in your mind. You don’t have to go to extraordinary lengths to work it out the way she wants it to look. It is just a blueprint of an idea.

It is possible to adjust it, but it should not be far from what she had asked for. Try your best to reach that point. You will have given her the dream relationship she has always been wanting.

4. How was your previous relationship?

Questions about the history of a girl are one that could go both ways. She could be open and honest about it, or she could lie about it. I would suggest, looking at her general reaction before being quick to conclude.

Many of the relationships that girls went through either ended severely or they realized that they were giving too much yet not getting an equal reciprocation. It, therefore, gets to be a very touchy subject in most cases.

However, knowing as many details as possible about her past relationships helps you know how to handle her when you start getting serious. It will also greatly help you know what to avoid and what to major on.

5. What was your first impression of me when we first met?

It is usually one fascinating question that I think girls love to be asked. Most of them usually start smiling when you ask them this. I have never understood why.

Anyway, the power behind this question is that you get to understand if you left an impression or not. Here, you can also get lied to. You can get the best answer from a girl if you have gotten to spend more time with her and you are now comfortable around each other.

For many people, you get to grow into each other. Therefore, what she thought about you at the start in most cases would have already changed. You might just have left a great impression on her over time. So, don’t be discouraged when she is too open and honest about it.

6. What situations make you most scared?

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Most girls are afraid of this question because it forces them to be open and vulnerable around them. No girl has ever been comfortable with this feeling, especially if they don’t know you very well.

When it comes to talking about the things that scare her most, you should be careful and ensure that you are listening. Just like listening to the things that excite her most when she thinks of her childhood, you should be careful about the things she dreads.

“Anyone can love a thing because. That’s as easy as putting a penny in your pocket. But to love something despite. To know the flaws and love them too. That is rare and pure and perfect.”

 Patrick RothfussThe Wise Man’s Fear

When a girl realizes that you are willing to listen and handle her during her scared moments, she can trust you more. This will make her feel weaker in front of you. No lady wants to feel weak without being sure that you can take care of her.

7. What excites you more, indoors or outdoors?

Being interested in a person is about learning everything about them. Does she like outdoor adventures or staying indoors? As much as you may say that you are yet to have long hours together, it is the things you do in those short periods of the day that makes them unique.

If she is an outdoor person, you can plan on hikes and adventures that involve the two of you spending time together outside. If she happens to be an indoor fanatic, you should understand her, even if you are not the same.

Plan activities that do not involve her going out a lot. You can have cookouts, board game adventures or even a simple movie night together. In case you need her to try going out, learn to give her prior knowledge so that she can be well-mentally prepared to make the day fun.

8. Between reading and watching, which one do you prefer?

Girls are never the same people. It never even depends on the age that the girl is in. There is a group of them that enjoy a good book. Others, catch them dead with a book in front of them. You must get to know the type of person you have.

You might be psyched to take her out to the movies, but all she wants is to have a nice quiet night, reading one of her favourite novels. Understanding this small part about her ensures you don’t waste your time thinking you are doing something fun for her, but she is not enjoying it.

Knowing this about her will help you know what to buy her as a gift, knowing she will greatly appreciate it.

9. What was your nickname as a child?

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It will help if you start by knowing that not everyone has had a nickname growing up. Some people have been called the same names, day in and day out. Therefore, this is one of those questions where there is a possibility that you may not get what you are looking for.

Knowing names that they have been called when they were young helps you get to know her on a more personal level. This only works if she tells you. Suppose she is okay with you calling her the same name, know you have made it to a deeper level than before. You are in that smaller circle.

If she has never had one, consider getting her one if she is okay. Such types of girls will allow only you to call them that name. This is because it would have become a special thing between the two of you.

10. What is your take on kids?

Kids are another very touchy subject when it comes to many people. It is one of those questions that you have to tread on carefully. Does she wish to one day be a parent or not? And if so, how many kids would she love to have?

This topic helps you plan accordingly, especially if you are serious enough to start a family together. Kids have been known to break up so many relationships because parents realize late in their relationship that they disagree on the same thing.

I know so many people who have the habit of postponing this topic, but it is vital. You should be willing to understand, and if need be a compromise for the sake of peace, and if you would like the relationship to continue.

However, please don’t allow it to escalate to the point where you even start giving names. It is just too early.

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11. What behaviour can’t you tolerate in a man?

Many people think that this question is a stupid one. However, you should know that many people never ask this and end up triggering the other person’s anger. Asking this question keeps you at arm’s length with what she hates.

Every relationship is usually more about making the other person more comfortable when they are around you. If she gets easily offended when you are around her, do you think she will be willing to stay around you for a long? This is the point where you will keep hearing her make lame excuses not to be around you.

Some of the behaviour could be involuntary, which, if she is reasonable, she will have to compromise. However, if she mentions something and you can change it, please do for her sake, please do. Some behaviour is not worth letting special people go.


Girls are some of the trickiest human beings alive. You may think you know them but there is always another layer of them you need to uncover. It is therefore very important that you get to know more about them even by asking questions. Understand what they fear, what they love, and their best and worst memories. Get to know where they stand when it comes to kids, marriage and even hobbies. Making them feel at home around you should be your ultimate goal. This way, they will be able to trust you more and even get to open up more to you.

But then, not all the girls will respond as you wish. Have you come across more questions? I would love to hear from you. Check related topics at trusty.

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