In our modern world, sending a Love Message to My Boyfriend has become the new way of showing romance and expressing one’s love. Yet, finding the right words to use proves challenging for most of us.
So, you got him! Congratulations! The guy you’ve been after is now your boyfriend with the possibility of even becoming your husband. He offers you all his love and you’re feeling like the only girl in the world and there is no better feeling, are there?
Love really is the best medicine and as they say, it makes the world go round. While there’s an unwritten rule that it’s the guy who should make most of the romantic moves and initiate intimacy, it’s become a bit outdated.
Women are now taking the reins and letting men know what they want and when they want it. But it’s not the same for all women. Family therapist Jill Whitney during an interview with fatherly says “Men often feel desire first and then get aroused. For women, it’s the opposite. “Often, women don’t feel desire until they’re already aroused.”
So, for the woman, it’s all about instigating desire. Desire in the dictionary is described as “craving, longing, yearning suggests feelings that impel one to the attainment or possession of something. Desire is a strong feeling, worthy or unworthy, that impels to the attainment or possession of something that is (in reality or imagination) within reach.”
Ok, so your man is within reach and he’s already a part of your life, so how do you let him know just how much he means to you so that you can have more of his love? And that you can indulge your desire for him ultimately leading to more intimacy? One of the most effective ways of telling your man in no uncertain terms just how much you desire him is to do it through the power of the written word. And no, we don’t mean texts or emails, but the real written word.
Read on, because we’ve got some pointers!
You have finally settled into a relationship. The man was once your crush, but he is now your boyfriend, even possibly your husband to be. He offers you all his love and makes you feel like you are the only girl in the world.
While in most cases, it is the man who should be more romantic, it doesn’t mean that as a lady, you should never shower your partner with love. Your boyfriend may appear very independent and stable, but he also needs to be assured of your love for him.
Do you want to know an ideal way that you can assure your boyfriend of your love? Trusty Relationships Blog can help you learn how to show love to your boyfriend. Read on to find out an effective way to do so; by sending a beautiful Love Message to my Boyfriend.
Words have power, there’s no denying it. Written thoughts and emotions put down on paper last forever and have much more impact than anything you could write via social media. In richlyrooted.com they say “The case for writing old-fashioned letters is the case for slowing down.
For doing a thing deliberately and allowing space for thoughtfulness to bloom. The practice makes us intentional because it requires a little more of us, even if the note we’re writing is only a short one.”
It’s easy to see here just how a handwritten letter or even an emotionally articulate note has so much more impact than an email because we are giving more of ourselves through handwriting.
We’re convinced that because of the meditative quality in letter writing we are more connected to our hearts and what we want to say develops into a poetic expression of love that’s deeply personal.
As Robert Frost puts it, “Poetry is when an emotion has found its thought, and the thought has found words.” Therefore, if you want to reach your boyfriend’s most profound emotions, we encourage you to write a beautiful Love Message to him … and no, you don’t have to be an award-winning poet to make a deep and lasting impact!
Here are 5 points to help get you started.
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- Include a Short, Clear Introduction
- Write the Things you Love Most about Him
- Mention Your Favorite Memories
- Mention what Nobody Ever Tells Him
- Talk About Your Plans for the Future
A Love Message is not a formal message. It’s an expression of your love. Writing a love note can be intimidating, but there is a format and the introduction is the starting point. In your intro, explain your reasons for writing the note. Take your time, light a candle, burn some incense, do something to make the space you are in sacred and sensual. Keep the intro short, remember it’s not the main course, but a foretaste.
Examples of how you might begin are below.
“Hey, sweetheart. I have intended to write you this message for a while now. I can’t get it out of my mind, and I think it’s finally time I shared my deepest feelings and emotions about you.”
“My Darling, I thought I’d take the time to write to let you know just how special you are.”
When you include a short, straightforward introduction in your love note, it will be like telling your boyfriend, “be ready.” In other words, an intro helps to prepare your partner emotionally and psychologically, and who doesn’t want to read and enjoy something beautiful about themselves?
For your Love Message to reach the most profound emotions of your boyfriend, you need to include a short and clear introduction to your love message. What does that mean? In the introductory part of your Love Message, explain your main reason for writing the note. In other words, your boyfriend should be able to tell the main topic of your message from the very start.
However, remember that the introduction does not make the gist of the Love Message. Therefore, resist the urge to start giving details in the introductory part. Instead, make it as short as possible, only giving highlights about the content of your Love Message.
Consider the following sample Love Message introduction you can write:
When you include a short, straightforward introduction to your Love Message, it’s like telling your boyfriend, “be prepared for an incoming waterfall of feelings.” In other words, such an introduction helps to prepare your partner emotionally and psychologically.
Jeremy Nicholson, a dating expert and PhD holder, advises that “… it is important to pay attention to what you and your partner do for each other as expressions of love … not just how you feel about each other at the moment.”
Yes, take the time to think about what your boyfriend does for you, both minor and major, then write them down in your sweet Love Message.
Also, write down a detailed explanation describing how his actions reach your heart and how they make you feel. Every man wants to be valued for his strength, commitment and for the contribution he makes to the relationship and perhaps he most of all, he wants to be appreciated. You can even write down all the points on several pages if you wish.
The following are two examples.
“I love how focused and hard-working you are in life. You are a go-getter. Were it not for you; my dreams would never have become a reality. You are indeed a blessing that I would never want to lose.”
“They say the main function of marriage is to provide emotional comfort and support. And you have played that part very perfectly. You always encourage and support me, never abandoning me when at my lowest points. I have never felt as emotionally fulfilled as I am with you.”
Before you can start writing your Love Message, think back to the good old times you spent together before it got serious. What memories do you have? Choose the top ones then write them down in your love note. It makes your man feel that irrespective of time he’s still got that special place in your heart. Alternatively, you can write just one memory that describes it in detail. Whatever you do, elaborate on his part in it.
These examples might help you.
“Have I ever discussed with you about our first kiss? That night, at front of the cinema hall, I was in bliss. My legs suddenly felt weak, and I almost fell over you! For the following few days, I could still feel the effect of the kiss on my lips. That is the kind of effect you still have on me, even today.”
“Remember that time we couldn’t stop laughing at the meeting until one of the board members had to ask us to leave? Then, when we went outside, you still couldn’t stop laughing so hard you fell on the floor? I loved you more then, and I still cherish such beautiful shared moments with you.”
As we grow accustomed to each other, we begin to take each other for granted…fact! We stop appreciating the things that we used to be grateful for. As time passes, we begin to stop giving compliments, assuming that we know enough about each other not to. Fatal mistake!
If you want to secure your relationship with your boyfriend, don’t take him for granted. A love note is appreciated and admired.
Nancy Ruth Deen, the owner of HELLOBreakup and a well-known relationship expert, comments that “Compliments are multi-beneficial. Not only do they make us feel good when we receive one, but we also feel acknowledged by our partner.”
Think about the things you usually compliment him on. Then, meditate on those qualities and actions that you rarely comment on. Remember, your compliments are absolute gold so make them more about how he makes you feel and his personal virtues and qualities rather than his looks or style (though don’t neglect these entirely either. )
Men love to be complimented on their masculine abilities because it validates them. Telling a man that you feel safe with him, that he’s your hero that you love, how he’s able to take charge and decide and that you notice and value how hard he works for you are compliments that he’ll really respond well to. You can then dig deeper than this and make them even more personal and appraising.
Below are some excellent examples for “starter compliments” from The Good Men Project.
Body and appearance-specific compliments
So, you got him! Congratulations! The guy you’ve been after is now your boyfriend with the possibility of even becoming your husband. He offers you all his love and you’re feeling like the only girl in the world and there’s no better feeling, is there? Love really is the best medicine and as they say, it makes the world go round. While there’s an unwritten rule that it’s the guy who should make most of the romantic moves and initiate intimacy, it’s become a bit outdated.
– You look so handsome.
– Wow … you weren’t kidding when you said you had been working out. Look at you!
– You look extra manly today. I like it.
– You look so handsome in that suit/tie/outfit!
– I love being wrapped up in your sexy arms.
– You look beautiful when you laugh.
– You look beautiful when you cry.
– You always look so handsome … even when you just woke up and your hair is all messy.
Compliments that acknowledge his efforts
– You’re so good to me.
– Thank you so much for cooking for me, love. I really appreciate it. And this is delicious!
– You can fix anything, can’t you?
– I love how gentle you are with me.
– Thank you for listening to me. I really appreciate you letting me vent.
– I noticed that you did (this) for me. Thank you for being so thoughtful. I really appreciate it. You’re very sweet with me and I love it.
– I loved seeing you playing with (mutual friend’s) kids earlier today. Your playful side is so sexy. I love that you can cut loose and have fun sometimes.
Compliments that show that you respect him
– I’m proud of you.
– I have so much respect for you.
– You become a better version of yourself every time I see you.
– It took a lot of courage to admit you were wrong/apologize/have that tough conversation back there … I really admire that you were able to do that. It was very attractive.
– I love how forgiving you are with those closest to you. It took a lot of strength to be the bigger man back there and you couldn’t have done any better.
Compliments that show that you trust him and his ability to lead
– I trust you.
– I’m on your side.
– You’ve never steered us wrong in the past.
– I would follow you anywhere.
– You always give the best advice. You’re so smart.
Compliments that show that you are affected by him
– I can’t help but blush around you.
– You always know how to make me smile.
– I respond to you on such a deep level.
– I feel like I can accomplish so much more in my life because I have you as a safety net. I always feel supported by you and it means so much to me.
– Your eyes are so captivating. I could get lost in them forever.
– I’ve never felt safer and more comfortable around any other person. I love being in your presence.
– I’ve never been more turned on by anyone. You make me weak in the knees so often.
– You are the funniest guy I know.
Try some of these as starter compliments in your Love Note, believe us, there are few men who won’t respond favourably. Men need validation from women, and this is where you have the most power.
If you genuinely love him, then you’re spending the rest of your life with him. But why wait for the proposal when you can drop a subtle hint to speed things up.
In your Love Message to Your Boyfriend, talk about your plans and mutual goals and about projects that involve him in the long term.
When you write about these plans in your sweet Love Message to him, remember the love is in the detail. Explain to him how long you’ve been having such thoughts, and why you feel you are the perfect couple who can attain these mutual goals.
If you know him very well and feel that things are serious you can write about how you dream of raising a family with him someday. Go into details and talk about how you picture your kids with him and what an incredible Dad he would make.
Talk about how you picture the two of you in fifty years … don’t be afraid to be humorous. Whichever plans you might have, don’t hold them back; let your partner know in the Love Message.
Talking about your plans is letting your boyfriend know that you’re serious about the relationship. Be careful that you don’t scare him off. So, when’s the right time to tell your man that you love him? It’s generally best to wait until you have done some things together that have consolidated you as a real couple.
If you’ve already had a few arguments and survived them, been away on weekends together, met some of his friends and have been introduced to his siblings and parents, then it’s highly likely that he’s seeing you as his life partner. Now is the time to express your deep feelings in your Love Note and tell him what he means to you.
So, don’t jump the gun, patience is a virtue and when you’re dealing with affairs of the heart initially it may well be hot – but what you’re waiting for is the slow and consistent burn. Now is the time to write your love note. Rejection is always a risk and in the love stakes, keep your cards close to your chest until you’re sure you’re on solid ground with him … you’re far more likely to play a winning hand.
Drs. John and Julie Gottman, researchers in relationships, comment in The Gottman Institute that if a relationship is to have stability, then the positives must always surpass the negatives. Initiating such positives in a relationship is by regularly writing sweet Love Messages to him.
Your boyfriend is your special someone. And, if you want to keep him special, then you have to work at it. It’s not the big things that keep your relationship healthy. Even something as simple as writing him a Love Message can do a lot to stabilize your relationship and make him feel valued and appreciated.
Any day is a perfect day to write to him. All that matters is that your Love Message comes from deep within your heart. You can place it somewhere he’ll find it, with a spray of your perfume on it. In his work briefcase or in his car. Surprise him!
Lastly, don’t forget to conclude your Love Message in style. Why? It leaves a lasting impression!
Have you ever written a Love Message to your boyfriend before? What other tips helped you write a good Love Message? Let me know in your comments below.