Are you thinking of setting new marriage goals with your spouse this new year? The trusty blog provides tips on specific couple goals that guarantee to make your marriage a success.
‘The two lovebirds finally got married, and they lived happily ever after.’ This notion is promoted in TV shows, movies, romance novels, and songs. However, ‘living happily ever after’ doesn’t just happen; the couple has to put in extra effort and determination.
Love indeed brings two people together, leading to marriage. However, for a marriage to be successful, love alone is not enough. As a couple, you must make a continuous effort to keep your marriage life happy.
You and your spouse can make your marriage life happy and prosperous by setting marriage goals. And what better time for setting marriage goals could there be than the beginning of a new year? New year, new resolutions, new marriage goals.
When you and your partner set marriage goals, you will have something to work toward together. Also, marriage goals encourage couples to depend on each other. They will draw you and your partner closer together, in turn, growing your marriage.
You want to give your marriage the proper nourishment and attention that it needs, don’t you? Well, despite it being the beginning of a new busy year, don’t get caught up in the busy routine. Set some marriage goals, and you will improve your chances of having a fulfilling married life.
17 Marriage Goals Every Couple Should Set For 2021
1. Converse Daily
It’s a new year, and most of us are now resuming our routine after the Covid-19 pandemic interrupted our routine last year. You may have gone back to work, and the busy schedule leaves you with little time to talk with your spouse.
However, meaningful conversations are crucial as they help to keep couples closer together. Therefore, make it your goal to have daily conversations with your sweetheart, even if it means setting time aside before or after dinner.
2. Be Independent for a Few Days
Love is such a beautiful feeling. When you love each other, you want to spend every minute of your life together. However, going a few days without needing each other is also equally important as spending time together.
Therefore, while you also work to create a strong bond between each other, set a goal to spend a few days without being together all the time. You will draw closer to each other.
3. Become Each Other’s Best Friend
“Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds a true friend in his wife” – Franz Schubert
The chemistry and love between couples are considered the backbone of every marriage relationship. However, even more, critical in a healthy marriage is being each other’s best friends. When you are best friends, you will joke around and cherish each other as long-time buddies do.
4. Have Each Other’s Back
When you are in love, it doesn’t guarantee that you will have your partner’s back and vice versa. And having each other’s back is not as easy as is shown on television. Therefore, set a goal this year to always have your partner’s back, both during your good times and your darkest times.
5. Support Each Other’s Dreams and Goals
“The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together” – Robert C. Dodds
Having marriage goals doesn’t mean that your partner won’t have their own specific goals and dreams. When your spouse talks to you about his or her goals this year, make it your goal to listen keenly and patiently.
However impossible or ridiculous the goals may sound, don’t laugh. Instead, encourage your partner, motivate them, and support them in achieving these dreams.
6. Resolve Your Issues in a More Mature Way
There is no perfect marriage. You, no doubt, have had some ‘fights’ with your partner. While regular fights and misunderstandings in a marriage are bound to happen, you can improve how you solve these issues.
Why don’t you set a goal this year to handle your issues more maturely than you did the previous year? The faster and maturely you settle your misunderstandings, the more trustworthy your marriage relationship will be established.
7. Do Something New Every Month
If you wish to prevent your marriage life from getting into a rut, set a goal to go the extra mile and make your relationship even more exciting.
Melodie Tucker, CPC (www.linkedin.com) comments, “Take a walk and hold hands (nature calms), couple-cook (food fight!), exercise together (tennis or dancing maybe?) or just collect a “Daily Joke” to share. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but if you make the commitment and effort to laugh together as often as possible, it can sweeten your connection and cement your relationship for life.”
8. Share Each of Your Plans
What dreams do you have for the future? What plans does your spouse have? Do you wish to further your education, or does your partner intend to have kids soon? In 2021, make it your goal to share your goals.
Also, when you share your goals, make sure that you are both on the same page. By doing so, you will grow closer to each other and avoid conflicts that could strain your marriage.
Defining unconditional love, Stephen G. Post (www.stephengpost.com), PhD, president of the Institute for Research on Unlimited Love, says, “When the happiness and security of another is as real and meaningful to us as our own, we love that person unconditionally.”
Yes, every relationship should set the goal to grow their love for each other. Set a goal to share a love that never fades, always support each other’s decisions, and trust each other more.
10. Start Setting a Budget
The number one reason for most marriage breakups and discords is disagreements about money. You and your spouse no doubt earn different amounts of income. More so, you both have different money spending habits.
To avoid such common arguments related to money, make it your goal this year to have regular discussions with your spouse about money. Set a budget and agree on making money, spending it, and even saving it for future use.
11. Talk About Anything and Everything
It is one thing to have regular conversations with your spouse, and it is another thing to be able to talk about everything and anything. ‘Anything and everything’ includes even tough conversations and challenging issues.
To talk about everything with your spouse, you can start by setting a goal to nurture your friendship. When your darling becomes your best friend, you will feel comfortable discussing anything and everything with them, even the most challenging subjects.
12. Improve Your Relationship with Your In-laws
Having a cordial relationship with in-laws is very important in marriage; it will prevent many issues and conflicts. However, blending two different families is not as easy as it sounds. It is no wonder, then, that you should set this as your marriage goals this year.
For instance, agree with your spouse that you will always try to see things from your in-law’s perspective. Remember to put your relationship first and support each other without making your partner feel like your relatives are always the priority.
13. Discuss Household Habits
When you get married, you and your partner don’t just become lovers; they also are roommates. Therefore, you will undoubtedly have roommate issues. For instance, while one person may be a neat freak, the other spouse may be a helpless slob.
To avoid any tension about household habits, regularly discuss household chores with your spouse. Angie and Eric Whitehead a couple who have been married for 21 years, says, “We decided to figure out the day-to-day tasks the other hates to do and then swap them. If your spouse does the chore that makes you a complete pile of misery, you’ll appreciate it (and him!) even more.”
14. Improve Your Health
Every new year people set resolutions, such as losing weight, jogging daily, and eating more healthily. If you are the sort that loves setting new year resolutions, why don’t you include your spouse instead of setting them alone this year?
For instance, set a similar time to jog together. Agree on what foods you will both eat more or cut on. The point is: when setting health goals, make sure that you and your partner are on the same page.
15. Serve One Another
Another marriage goal you can set for 2021 is to make your partner’s life much more comfortable. Marriage is a compromise. Therefore, please don’t give your partner a mere 50% and expect them to give you 50%; this will only be a loss.
Make it your goal this year to give your partner 100%. Giving 100% of yourself means that you won’t expect anything in return. Submit to your spouse and do everything you can to lighten their responsibilities.
16. Find Mentors and Be Mentors
It’s a new year, and you are still a couple! You deserve to be commented. Since you have battled all the marriage struggles and come out victorious, why don’t you consider becoming mentors to other couples this year?
Also, you can find other mentors, mostly older couples who have been married for several years. Such older couples can give you motivation and advice on having an even more fulfilling marriage life.
17. Set an Emergency Plan
No one can predict the future. However, with a good plan, you can always be prepared for unexpected events. Therefore, you can set an emergency plan with your spouse as your marriage goal this year.
For instance, think about what you would do if there were a fire, an earthquake, a tsunami, or floods. What supplies would you need? Buy a go-bag and fill it with all the necessary supplies you would need. Undertaking this activity with your partner will not only make you ready for any unexpected occurrences, but it will also draw you closer to each other.
Do you wish to give your marriage life, meaning, and direction? If so, then normalize setting marriage goals as a couple. Setting these goals will allow you to spend more time together and even establish good patterns that will go on for the rest of your life.
So, if you wonder what marriage goals to set with your partner this year, the above 17 discussed goals are a start. Make it your goal to converse daily. Become the best companions who can talk about anything and everything.
Share each other’s plans and support one other. Also, set a budget and always resolve your problems more maturely. Keep your relationship fun by doing something new every month. Most importantly, give your partner 100% and let your unconditional love grow more and more each passing day.
Remember, your marriage is not like any other person’s. When you have your own marriage goals, you give your relationship the authenticity and uniqueness it deserves. So take advantage of this new year and start setting your marriage goals today!
What other couple’s goals have you set with your spouse this year? Let me know in your comments.
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