10 Qualities That A Man Looks For In A Woman

Hey, do you want to know how you can attract the kind of quality man you want? Are you aware that stepping into the most alive and feminine version of you will attract a quality man? There’s no need for gimmicks, manipulation or crazy tricks? Check out the ten qualities a man looks for in a woman, and use them in your life.

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1. A feeling of being alive

This quality of aliveness, this quality of being infused with feminine light coming from you is something that a guy can’t have alone in any way, shape, or form. There is a way that you can – with one glance, one look, one expressive hug – make him feel something that he can’t generate on his own.

Any guy who has standards is going to want to feel love, aliveness and appreciation from you, that means you need be able to generate it naturally in your own life so that it effortlessly spills into the lives of those who connect with you. And if you can continue to express these qualities then that passion makes you noticeable and inspires the people you have in your life to connect with you, including a quality man. So do the things that you love and enjoy, pursue your hobbies and interests. As a woman you are a natural multi-tasker. You work harder than the men around you, you have more to do and to cope with. It’s extremely important that you have time out for you. This might mean having a weekly massage, a daily beauty routing at home or anything that allows you to celebrate your beauty and your body. This will add tremendous value to your vitality and physical being.    

2. He needs to know that you have standards.

A guy is going to put you into two categories, are you a good time girl or are you marriageable material? someone he could easily bring home to his mother without having to worry that you might embarrass him. So, the standards that you have will in great measure influence his first impressions of you. It is one of the important qualities a man looks for in a woman.

I’m not saying this is cool or fair, I’m just saying this is what happens and women do the same thing in their own unique way so if you want a guy to put you in the category of a potential wife, then you need to have standards for dating, standards for when to have sex, standards for how you connect with them, standards for how alive you are and how much self-care you practice, standards for when you say yes or when you say no. Never give yourself away too quickly, make him wait for it, make him work for and earn your love and time. You are a valuable human being and most men respect a woman far more if she has high levels of self-respect. Remember men love to be appreciated, it makes them feel masculine, it validates them in their sexuality, you alone can only do this – so demonstrate your appreciation, just don’t give into his sexual demands quickly. Set good boundaries if the guy drifts away, he was only looking for one thing. Good that he’s gone! Next!

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3. No dramas

A guy who is quality as a commitment-minded man wants you to communicate what you want without any dramas. What does that mean? The more direct your statement or conversation, the less you ask him to guess to understand.

The simpler and more straightforward you are, the easier it will be for him to get along with you. So be as clear as you can about what you need to feel respected and loved. Never think that a man can anticipate your mood or work out how you are feeling. This makes for tension and discord. Men don’t know how women feel, so it’s important that you make your feelings clear and he will act accordingly. 

4. Admiration  

Quality men like to feel admired by the woman they connect with. It’s always easy to compliment him on and admire him for his personal qualities and if he does something for you demonstrate your gratitude with a kiss and a kind word, I can almost guarantee you that he will come back for more, again and again. You’ll find that appreciation and admiration will quickly become mutual, but you, as the woman he depends on in order to feel good about himself, are in the driving seat. Drive carefully and he will always feel connected to you and grateful for your gratitude which empowers him.

You could be the most accomplished woman but if he doesn’t feel there’s a connection with you or that he’s not appreciated or admired, it won’t progress to anything.

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5 Interdependence

When he needs someone, he needs a woman who is willing to go past independence and into interdependence. I’m not saying co-dependence and I’m not saying someone who depends on him for her own fulfilment, but someone who’s willing to be open to receiving because if he wants to do things for you and you reject him constantly because you don’t want to lose your independence, then he’s not going to feel like he can add value to your life.

And guess what? He’s going to connect with someone – maybe not as smart as you or as beautiful as you are – but who allows herself to receive. At the depth of the feminine soul is the ability to receive, and at the depth of the masculine soul is the ability to offer something. When you even think about intimacy in a relationship, a man is designed to give to his wife while she opens her heart to receive affection.

The physical or biological embodiment of this dynamic is if he cannot offer you something, you’re willing to receive, it’s because you feel, ‘Well I don’t need anything from anyone.’ Then he’s not going to have what he needs to know that he can create a sustainable relationship with you, and he’ll move forward. So, I’m not saying become dependent on him, but I am saying be open to receiving from him and again, demonstrate gratitude.

6. Self-ignited

He needs someone who’s self-ignited because the last thing he wants is to feel that your happiness is dependent upon him. The last thing he wants is to feel like is that he needs to change the world for you to feel fulfilled. He wants to be able to bring something to the table, but he needs to know that you’re not relying on him to create and to fill a void that can only be filled through your own self-expression and your own engagement with your own life.

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7 Smart but honest

When a man is looking for a partner for life, he wants to make sure that she is smart. Ideally, you should be smarter than him, and science agrees with this. Lawrence Whalley, professor emeritus of the University of Aberdeen has been researching dementia for a long time and he found that a smart woman can protect a man from dementia later in life. His advice: “The thing a boy is never told he needs to do if he wants to live a longer life — but what he should do — is marry an intelligent woman. There is no better buffer than intelligence.”

The idea is that a smart partner never stops challenging you intellectually, which helps you keep your mental faculties keen forever. Everyone makes mistakes and bad decisions sometimes. This makes it even more important to have someone who can get you back on track and tell you when you are wrong. Studies show that men want to have an honest partner by their side when they look for a long term committed relationship. Honesty is one of the fundamental qualities a man looks for in a woman. If you are an honest woman, he will never let you go.

8 Positive and open-hearted

​Every man in his right senses will always go for a woman that is positive and provides him with the encouragement he needs every time he needs it! That’s one thing he desperately needs from you. Look at it this way: Negative people are toxic and bad for our health in the long run. This is because we tend to take on the negativity of people we spend the most time with. This was shown in a research paper by the psychologist Elaine Hatfield.

And this internalized negativity can lead to increased heart rate, it impedes our digestion and lowers our concentration. Having a partner who shines in the public spotlight and can easily make herself heard in a group makes life a lot easier. A study by the University of Westminster suggests that people who are open hearted and share personal information with their spouses are seen as especially attractive.

The authors of the study even say that this quality is so important that people will judge the physical appearance of open-hearted people as more handsome or beautiful.

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9. Calm and flexible

Quarrels and misunderstandings are an inevitability of all relationships. Never disagreeing is not a sign of a stable relationship, but the important thing is how you deal with disagreements and how you make up again after. Researchers of the University of California Berkeley and Northwest University accompanied 80 couples for 13 years and found that a relationship will last the longest if the woman can calm herself during a fight and transfer those emotions to the man. The effect is not the same if the man is the one to calm down first. Calmness and flexibility are two qualities a man looks for in a woman. So, learn to stay calm if you want to keep a man in your life! Don’t hold grudges against your man if he stays out too late, or if he does anything to get you angry.

A long-term study of the University of Michigan with 4864 married individuals showed that the happiest couples where those who had more leisure time together. “It could be that couples that do more leisure time activities together have better marital quality,” says Kira Birditt, author of the study.

10. She does not bear grudges

Forgiveness is one of the qualities a man looks for in a woman. When a man finds a woman who can forgive him and others easily, he knows that he will have her by his side for a long time. A study by researchers of the Luther College, Duke University, and the Harvard Divinity School showed that people who can unconditionally forgive others live longer lives. But perhaps more importantly: Forgiveness is the foundation of a healthy relationship. People are not perfect and neither are you.

There will be times when you inadvertently do something that hurts your partner, and then you will need him to be able to forgive you.

Quality men know that when they eventually find a woman who has some or all of these qualities, they are supposed to treat her well and never let her go. Their lives will be better for having her.

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In this post you have read about ten things quality men look for in a woman, and I really do hope you were able to take on some of the points and bring them to action. 

So, in which of these areas do you think you need to improve?

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